Do you have the courage? "I don't have the courage; I back down at the slightest issue," a friend said to me. Thinking back, I didn't know what courage was. I wanted to mention this in my 2024 year-end summary, so I named it "Courage," but after naming it, I just left it there. I think at that time, I knew what courage was because I really became much braver in 2024.
Recently, I wrote a letter to a friend, mentioning, "I think we all have the courage to face it because we are all too young." The first half is what I really wanted to say, and the second half is a line from Ne Zha that I thought was cool: "Because we are all too young, we don't know the heights of heaven and the depths of the earth." What I actually want to express is that we should be a bit braver in whatever we do. Courage is different from being timid, shy, or introverted, just like I told her before, "What will the future be like? I don't know, but please be a little braver!" I rarely preach; I just give suggestions, sincerely encouraging everyone to be a bit braver.
What I am best at is waiting, waiting for people who are neither too far nor too close to come to me, waiting for the other party to speak first and invite me, waiting for a good opportunity to say the words that remain unspoken... Most of the time, the results of waiting end up being nothing. Leaving one regret after another, some dissipating with the wine in the morning, and some that I can't forget no matter how much I try not to care. I also mentioned in a previous article: Active and Passive
Dear friend, please do not lack the courage to say goodbye to everything. Whether passive or not, please be decisive and say "goodbye" loudly.
Taking the initiative to say it doesn't mean you are at a disadvantage or have fallen into a passive position; it simply means you are being proactive. Yes, it just means expressing your thoughts and doing what you want to do, that's all. The more weight you put on it, the harder it is to speak up. Looking back, it really isn't that significant. I just feel that if that consequence doesn't happen, then face and dignity don't matter at all.
So the first step to courage—expressing your thoughts. Later, I told that friend at the beginning: "With me, there is nothing you can't say; this is a matter between the two of us, not just yours 😊." I hope we can both be a bit braver; sometimes what I say to her is also what I am saying to myself. Sometimes I doubt whether what I say is really useful. For a while, I frequently asked if she remembered those promises, those words spoken, and the experiences shared; she said she didn't remember. At that moment, I thought, wow, do I remember all those important things I said while only I care about those words and actions?
Yes, in this world, only you care about yourself; courage can change the world. In fact, you don't need too much comfort to take that step; you don't need to imagine a million times in your mind, "What if I say this, and he xxx?" "The worst-case scenario is probably xxx, right? Come on, you can do it." I think, on the contrary, these thoughts bind you. When the world is pouring rain, no one will think about whether to open that umbrella; all that comes is the dense raindrops hitting your face. At that moment, I would probably stretch out my hand and open my palm to feel the power of the rain, just as I bravely face this world; everything that happens is so natural.
I say that no one in this world cares about you, and isn't that also a comfort to myself? There are still some people in the world who care about themselves, our parents, relatives, lovers... but courage can only be faced by oneself. I really like the wandering heroes who put everything in their wine; I don't feel the need to express it or show it, which gives a sense of loneliness but a rich inner self. Whether having experienced the vicissitudes of life or just entering the world, courage is an essential driving force that guides us forward, bravely taking that step even when we know the outcome, choosing to continue moving forward even when the road ahead is perilous.
Wishing—there are no timid children in this world~
"My heart
Where do you place it?
Perhaps you
Don't care at all."