Do you have the courage? “I don’t have the courage; I back down at the slightest issue,” a friend said to me. Thinking back, I didn’t know what courage was. I wanted to mention this in my 2024 year-end summary, so I named it courage, but after naming the title, I just left it there. I think I knew what courage was back then because I really became much braver in 2024.
Recently, I wrote a letter to a friend, mentioning, “I think we all have the courage to face it because we are all too young.” The first half is what I really wanted to say, and the second half is a line I found cool from Ne Zha: “Because we are all too young, we don’t know the heights of heaven and the depths of the earth.” What I really want to express is that we should be a little braver in everything we do. Being brave is different from being timid, shy, or introverted. Just like I told her before, “What will the future be like? I don’t know, but please be a little braver!” I rarely preach; I just give suggestions, sincerely advising everyone to be a little braver.
What I am best at is waiting, waiting for people who are neither too far nor too close to come to me, waiting for the other party to speak first and invite me, waiting for a good opportunity to say the unsaid words... Most of the time, the results of waiting end up being nothing. Leaving behind one regret after another, some dissipate with the wine in the morning, while others, no matter how much I try to ignore them, I can’t forget. I also mentioned in a previous article: Active and Passive
Dear friend, please do not lack the courage to say goodbye to everything. Whether passive or not, please be decisive and say “goodbye” loudly.
Taking the initiative to say it doesn’t mean you are at a disadvantage or have fallen into a passive position; it doesn’t represent anything, it’s just being proactive. Yes, it’s just expressing your thoughts and doing what you want to do, that’s all. The more weight you put on it, the harder it is to speak. Looking back, it’s really not that important. I just feel that if that kind of consequence doesn’t happen, then face and dignity don’t matter at all.
So the first step to being brave is to express your thoughts. Later, I told that friend at the beginning, “You can say anything to me; this is a matter between the two of us, not just your own 😊.” I hope both of us can be a little braver. Sometimes what I say to her is also something I’m saying to myself. Sometimes I doubt whether what I said is really useful. For a while, I frequently asked whether she remembered those promises, those words spoken, and the experiences we had. She said she didn’t remember. At that moment, I thought, wow, did I remember so many important things only by myself? Did I care about those words and actions only by myself?
Yes, in this world, only you care about yourself; courage can change the world. Actually, you don’t need too much comfort to take that step. You don’t need to imagine a million times in your mind, “What if I say this, and he xxx?” “The worst-case scenario is probably xxx, right? Come on, you can do it.” I think, on the contrary, it’s these thoughts that bind you. When the world is pouring down rain, no one will think about whether to open that umbrella; all that comes are countless raindrops hitting your face. At that moment, I might stretch out my hand and open my palm to feel the power of the rain, just as I bravely face this world; everything that happens is so natural.
I say that no one in this world cares about you, and isn’t that also a comfort to myself? There are still some people in the world who care about themselves, our parents, relatives, lovers... but courage can only be faced by oneself. I really like the wandering heroes who put everything in their wine; I don’t feel the need to express it outwardly. There’s a sense of loneliness, but the heart is rich. Whether experiencing the vicissitudes of life or just entering the world, courage is an essential driving force that guides us forward. Knowing the outcome, we still have to bravely take that step, and even when we know the road ahead is perilous, we still choose to move forward.
Wishing—there are no timid children in the world~
“My heart
Where do you place it?
Perhaps you
Don’t care at all”